Relationships during tough times Pt2

Hi Lovies, It’s your favorite farming yogi, Tei, The NeoUrbanist. Last week, I shared with you a part of the Book of Ruth. If you didn’t have an opportunity to read that post check it out here “Relationship during tough times pt1”.
So you say Tei, why is this portion of the story so significant? Well, I’m glad you asked. You see, once the ladies part ways you never hear about Orpah again. With love-filled hearts, Naomi and Ruth wished Oprah well on her journey and moved on with their lives. In my mind, there is no way they didn’t miss her. They had lived, loved, and lost together.  I believe they understood that their paths were no longer meant to intertwine. This can be applied to all forms of relationships because, well frankly put, all relationships are not meant to last forever, and adversity is often the catalyst that reveals this fact.

This pandemic is no exception.  As a collective, we have had to work harder to stay connected. It wasn’t safe to gather, financial changes caused unexpected relocations. Some of us experienced illness.  We had to more than just WANT to stay connected. We had to be willing to do the work to stay connected. It is painful to know that you are not someone’s choice when they are yours. But as Ruth demonstrated in the story, when someone wants to be in your life, they put the effort forth.  Orpah was not a bad person, nor does it mean that she was never dedicated to Ruth. What it does mean is that the circumstances for their pairing changed and staying with Naomi wasn’t the same priority.  So this holiday season when you are reflecting on your relationships I want you to love yourself enough to remember this tip 

Allow people to do what they want to do so that you can see what they would rather do, then govern yourself accordingly”;  understanding that just because you may not be the “rather” in the equation does not make what you shared any less real or beautiful. It does not mean that you are unworthy. It simply means your paths are no longer meant to intertwine.  The realization that everyone is not meant to be in your life forever may cause you to feel a myriad of emotions. Acknowledge your feelings, embrace and revel in the good memories, and move on with peace.

 Love on yourself until next time Lovies.

 Bye For Now, 


Relationships during tough times

Hi Lovies, It’s your favorite farming yogi, Tei, The NeoUrbanist. Living through a global pandemic has been rough on all of us in so many ways. As the holidays approach I wanted to talk about relationships. A friend mentioned the struggle she faced with some of her relationships ending during this global pandemic. I shared a love story found in the Bible from the Book of Ruth. Rather than focus on the actual love story of Ruth and Boaz, I wanted to bring light to the relationships between the three women in the story.  I will sum it up quickly for you.

Three women (Naomi, Ruth, and Orpah) were faced with tragedy, and all became widows. With no spouses to provide for them, Naomi (the matriarch) makes the decision to send her daughter in laws back to their families because she is returning to her homeland.  When presented with the option to return home, Orpah returned to her family, but Ruth refused. The famous line that is often spoken as bridal wedding vows, “Where you go, I will go, and where you stay, I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die, I will die, and there I will be buried” was born from Ruth’s refusal to leave Naomi. 

I’ll break here and pick up next week on why I believe this story is so significant to all of us learning to put SelfFirst while still nurturing the relationships in our lives. 

Bye for Now,


Thank you Tei, we can’t wait till next week to see what’s next! So, SelfFirster’s, when you think about the relationships in your life… are there any vows to a friend or promises that you have made that are no longer align with your current vision and dream for your life?

How do you nurture a relationship with yourSELF that allows you to be a better friend in the relationships you treasure?

Remember it is about you! @shawannaksays

Meet “The Neourbanist”

The Self First Movement is excited to have “Tei The Neourbanist” come aboard as a featured contributing writer. Get ready to see a different perspective of farming and yogi as we know it. I like to introduce to some a present to others Tei.

Get your goals and Get to work

Have you ever set a goal and not achieved it?  Most people have.  In fact, it’s quite common for people to get stuck in an endless cycle of setting goals and then quitting them shortly afterward – and accomplishing nothing at all.

Why do people do this?  One of the biggest reasons is a lack of commitment to their goal.  Without commitment, a goal will gradually shrink in importance, and the temptation to quit will seem much more attractive, especially when obstacles cause setbacks and delays.

On the other hand, if you make a serious commitment and then continually remind yourself of it, you’ll be much more likely to persevere and achieve the goal.

Below are a couple of things to consider: 

1)    First and foremost, don’t be spooked! You have to make sure that every goal you set is of VITAL importance to you.  This can be tricky because we so often fool ourselves into thinking we want one thing when we want something entirely different.  Take some time with this part of the process, and be sure that you get to the heart of what you really want.  
Why do you want it?  
What will it do for you?  
What positive things will it bring to your life?  
How will it help you?  
How will it make you feel when it’s accomplished?

Write all of this down and keep it handy so you can refer to it as often as necessary if you feel your commitment beginning to slip.  

Also, ask yourself if your goal is worth the effort and sacrifice that will be needed to achieve it.  If you can honestly answer yes, you are on the way!

2)    Think about what will happen if you don’t follow through.  Would nothing much happen if you don’t achieve your goal?  If not, then you need to raise the stakes!  You have to make your goal the most important thing in the world, and if you don’t do it, you’ll deal with negative consequences.   For example, play up the fact that you’ll lose respect for yourself if you don’t follow through, or you might agree to give up something you love if you don’t make it happen.

3)    Then, each and every day, renew your commitment.  It’s easy to be committed to your goal if it is new and your motivation is high, but you need to be able to STAY committed – no matter what!  Each day when you awaken, read through the goals you wrote down on the first day, and stress again how vitally important it is to you.  Promise yourself that you’re going to do as much as you can to work on your goal that day, and every day until you achieve it.

You don’t have to be frightened in some cases inactivity and procrastination are usually nothing more than bad habits.  Turning those habits into something more positive and productive is as simple as taking it a day at a time and working your hardest to change your life.  The more committed and determined you are to make your goal happen, the more likely you’ll do just that.

Remember it is about you! Have you order your copy of Self First The 5 W’s Of You? If so, are you doing your “Self Work” that will assist you in staying the course? 

The 5W’s Of You allow you to do your Self-work to learn more about yourself. I found that self-care doesn’t need to be a temporary escape from your life, but a way to live it more fully. How about you?

You are worth it! #selflove #selffirst #itisaboutyou

Listen up! 

When you know your value, you will stop shortchanging the world of what you have to offer.  Our Creator formed you with special gifts, talents, and abilities for the purpose of making the world better.  

You were created to be the solution to someone else’s problem.  

If you spend your time denying this fact instead of expending your energy on being who you were created to become, you do the world a disservice and shortchange yourself. 

You are worth every breath that you take, every investment you make into yourself, and every moment that someone pours into you.   

You are worth the effort that it is going to take for you to make your dreams come true.  You are worth the love and success that you desire. 

You are more valued than you could ever imagine.  You are more than your mistakes, bad choices, failures, and inconsistencies. 

Make today the day that you believe those words!

No matter what you are faced with today personally, professionally, or in your business, you have or can access the resources that you need to take care of it. 

Now, finish conquering the rest of this day and check out forthcoming emails from me with surprises inside, 

You got this!

Oh, I don’t forget to grab your copy of the book  Self First 5 W’s Of You on sale now!!!

Talk to you soon…


Shawanna Kennedy,
Your Self First Strategist and Wellbeing Advocate  
 Let’s Stay Connected! 

Bad days don’t Win, unless allowed by you!

In this life, we will encounter days filled with challenges difficulty frustration and, confusion. But, remember you do still have a “CHOICE”. Most of the time perception make all the difference in the world. Pause and take a deep breath and then take a second look before you “React” instead of giving the proper response.  #shawannasays

Empower you! WIN within…#selffirst

What’s up?

Remember you have the POWER and Authority so, when is the last time you’ve used it? Put yourSELF back on the list I am here to Empower you to MOVE to ACTION!!!

#takecharge #selffirst #winwithin #POMPOM #shawannakennedy #putyoubackonthelistr #empowerment #authority #wisedom #mindset #shift #wind #theselffirstmovement #iamshawannak #shawannaksays #iaffirm #foundation #impact #me #win #emerge #selffirst #strategy #solutionist #life #love #action #move #nonstop

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Mindset Tune-up Time #selffirst

How are you doing?

Now that we are halfway through the year, I think we need to pause for the cause and hit the reset button. I want to make sure you’re keeping yourself on the to-do- list of your life and have not fallen back into old habits. So, I’m going to give you some Mindset Upgrades tips that will help you put your mind in the right place. I want to make sure you are continuing on your road to success. Mindset is everything! and you need to mind your mind.

What are your goals?

Are you still on track According to your plan? 

It’s important for you to pursue your short and long-term goals at the same time.

No matter if you work with or for someone else you have to keep your personal goals in mind. Are you doing anything on the side to aid in earning extra money to fund your “BIG” dream? Don’t get stuck making money for someone else and forget about you. Trust me … I get it.

I know what that feels like, just know you are not alone. Make sure you have time blocked during the week whether its a few minutes every day or scheduled time on the weekend. Remember it is about you and you putting yourSELF on the list of your life.

Click the link the and join me now

It is You alone that is responsible for the success and or failure of your business, so be mindful of your mind. Watch what you allow to distract you that could potentially cause you to lose opportunity and money. Also, remember to be present so that you don’t miss when the necessary adjustment might need to your plan that will save you time and energy later.

Be ok to get help. Some of the top professionals today have coaches, a mentor, and are apart of a group to network and gain quality relationships.

Take some classes and be ok to ask for help. Stay focused! Be consistent!

1)Stay focused

2)Be in the present

3)Be ok to get help even if that’s a coach

4)Make sure you are drinking plenty of water, getting some form of exercise, and take your vitamins.

All these things we aid you in being your best SELF Now! remember It is about YOU!

Now, finish conquering the rest of this year.

You got this!

Oh, I don’t forget to grab your copy of the book  Self First 5 W’s Of You on sale now it’s just the tool you need to help guide you through.

I would love to hear from you, Click the link and sign up for the email list and receive your FREE downloadable gift. “put you back on the to do list of your list. Please share and invite others to subscribe. Thank you joining me! #iCheer4you #POMPOM @shawannaksays on IG