Hi Lovies, It’s your favorite farming yogi, Tei, The NeoUrbanist. Last week, I shared with you a part of the Book of Ruth. If you didn’t have an opportunity to read that post check it out here “Relationship during tough times pt1”.
So you say Tei, why is this portion of the story so significant? Well, I’m glad you asked. You see, once the ladies part ways you never hear about Orpah again. With love-filled hearts, Naomi and Ruth wished Oprah well on her journey and moved on with their lives. In my mind, there is no way they didn’t miss her. They had lived, loved, and lost together. I believe they understood that their paths were no longer meant to intertwine. This can be applied to all forms of relationships because, well frankly put, all relationships are not meant to last forever, and adversity is often the catalyst that reveals this fact.
This pandemic is no exception. As a collective, we have had to work harder to stay connected. It wasn’t safe to gather, financial changes caused unexpected relocations. Some of us experienced illness. We had to more than just WANT to stay connected. We had to be willing to do the work to stay connected. It is painful to know that you are not someone’s choice when they are yours. But as Ruth demonstrated in the story, when someone wants to be in your life, they put the effort forth. Orpah was not a bad person, nor does it mean that she was never dedicated to Ruth. What it does mean is that the circumstances for their pairing changed and staying with Naomi wasn’t the same priority. So this holiday season when you are reflecting on your relationships I want you to love yourself enough to remember this tip …
Allow people to do what they want to do so that you can see what they would rather do, then govern yourself accordingly”; understanding that just because you may not be the “rather” in the equation does not make what you shared any less real or beautiful. It does not mean that you are unworthy. It simply means your paths are no longer meant to intertwine. The realization that everyone is not meant to be in your life forever may cause you to feel a myriad of emotions. Acknowledge your feelings, embrace and revel in the good memories, and move on with peace.
Love on yourself until next time Lovies.
Bye For Now,